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Improving Yourself through Self Motivation
Self motivation is an extremely important part of excelling in life. Everyone needs to have the motivation to get through even the most discouraging situation. After all, if you give up when things get tough, you’re sure to lose before you get done.
So what can you do to improve your self motivation and thus improve yourself? Let’s take a look at a few tips and tricks that might get you through.
1. Find something you care about. If you don’t have a cause to motivate you, it can be hard to keep going. Whether it’s a temporary cause, or a lifelong goal, you can get a lot of mileage out of working towards something that you find important. Come back to it again and again when you find your motivation flagging.
2. Goals are important. You need to have a dream or goal that you really want to meet. Otherwise, it might seem like there’s no point in going forward. Everyone needs a realistic goal that’s still far enough away to challenge them to be their best. Look for goals that stretch your ability without being impossible.
3. Keep goals realistic. Too many people set one big goal and then try to meet it, only to fall down along the way. Stick to many small goals that you know you can reach, rather than one big one that’ll be really difficult. It’s just easier to do things in small steps than it is to try to do everything at once.
4. Don’t compare yourself to others. It’s easy to feel like someone else’s success makes you a failure, or feel like you have to live up to the schedule of success set by someone you admire. However, this is a terrible way to build self motivation. In fact, it’ll generally be bad for your motivation and for your self esteem. Use your own metric to determine success, not anyone else’s. After all, no one else is living your life. How can you assume your progress should be the same as yours?
5. Take it one step at a time. Remember that even when you reach your goals, you haven’t finished the race. So, take one more step, and see what’s beyond that success. If you feel like you’re flagging on the way to a goal, that one more step can help you there, too. After all, if you break things down into just one step at a time, you’ll get there eventually.
6. Never threaten yourself. Some people feel like they have to punish themselves for not reaching goals, but the truth is that this won’t work. Most of the time, it just makes you feel unhappy and afraid of trying. Instead of using the stick, try the carrot. Give yourself a reasonable reward when you hit a mini-goal. It’ll help you feel positively about your journey, and make everything a lot easier.
7. Plan things out. You’d want detailed instructions from a supervisor at work if you were given a task, so why are you willing to work for yourself without them? Write down or plan out what you need to do in detail. It’s like leaving instructions for yourself. Whatever you need to do, it’ll go more easily if you don’t have to puzzle things out as you go.
8. Forget about the past. Too many people dwell on past failures and assume that they’re destiny. This is a terrible idea! Ignore your past failures, and remember only what you’ve learned from them. That way, you’ll be pointed towards success, and have the motivation to improve yourself. It’s amazing what a positive attitude can do for you. So don’t dwell on those old memories – set out to make some new and more positive ones.
It can seem pretty difficult to stay motivated when you’re trying to improve yourself. But the truth is that if you’re careful and you pay close attention, you can do it. Take the time to be organized and set the kinds of goals you can meet, be willing to take it one step at a time, and don’t give up. You’ll eventually reach the point you’re after, and go well beyond it, too. Self motivation is one of the first parts of self improvement.
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About the Author:
Jerry Pelletier – About the Author:Jerry Pelletier is an online marketing and self branding expert who teaches the tips and techniques to his team of new and experienced entrepreneurs that gets results to sell anything to anyone, anywhere in the world, working from your own home-based business. To learn how to become Financially Secure and gain Financial Freedom through his unique Business platform.To visit his website or contact him from there. http://www.TimeForYours.net
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Stop Whining, change your thoughts change your life!
Are you tired of the way your life is, your business is? Then Stop whining, make a change from the inside and become happy. Change your thoughts, change your life. It really is just as simple as that! Once you become happy with yourself you will be surprised how it changes everything else.
You say, Yeah Right!, Simple? My business is failing, my relationship is on the rocks, my boss or employees do not like me. How am I suppose to change that?
Well first of all stop whining about it, the more you focus on how bad things are, the more bad things will happen. You need to focus on the good things in your life, Yes there are good things!
Good things like, your able to get out of bed in the morning, you just witnessed the birth of a new baby, you have a family that loves you, maybe you even have a dog and they are always happy to see you.
The Pursuit of Happiness
The whole purpose of life is an old saying, In the Pursuit of Happiness! That is what you have to consistently do, is pursue happiness. In order to do that you have to change from the inside. You can change how you look, but until you change what is inside, you will always be the same. Change on the inside by saying affirmations, What a Great day!, It is so good to be alive!, or Today is the best day of my life!
Once you change your thoughts in your subconscious mind, you will start feeling happy instead of sad. If your having trouble with your relationship, then everyday write down what made you fall in love with your partner in the first place. Focus on everything good about them, then give it about 30 days and the love will return.
Decide what needs to be changed in order for you to be happy, then take it one step at a time. If you try to change everything at once you will become more stressed, and things will work just the opposite for you.
Fear
The biggest thing most people need to change is having fear, fear of failure, and even fear of success, maybe you think you do not deserve to have success. Another one is dwelling on the past, come on already, the past is gone. Another one is worrying about the future. What good does it possibly do to worry about the future when it is not even here yet.
When you focus on all the negative things in your life rather than the positive, you can be assured that you are heading in the direction of anxiety. Get rid of all the negative thoughts, what good do they really do you? Focus on only positive for true happiness.
The Perfect Syndrome
Do not get trapped in the, I have to be perfect syndrome? Well, no one is perfect. If you really think about it, if everyone were perfect, what a boring world we would live in. Holding yourself to the highest of standards can be draining emotionally and physically. There is no reason to put yourself, or you family through that!
Stop focusing on what you are NOT happy about, and start focusing on what WILL make you happy. Make room inside of you for that change, push out all the unhappiness that has been bottled up and stick in happy.
Relax
Learn to relax. When your relaxed things are easier to cope with, which makes it easier to make changes. When you are relaxed start writing down those things that you want to change inside of you, and then take them step by step toward your true happiness.
Break your old habits and start new happy habits. It will not happen over night, they say it takes 21 days to change. Be persistent and stick with it for at least 21 days, and watch how your life changes.
Remember, Stop whining, Be Happy, Change your thoughts, change your life!
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About the Author:
Julianne Rowat, the author, is an internet marketing entrepreneur. She has wrote other articles, press releases and has videos on motivation, self improvement, and FAQ about having an internet marketing business. Her husband is a retired fire fighter/ paramedic. They have 4 children and 6 grandchildren. They travel all around the United States in their motor home while working their internet marketing business. Their mission is to help others all over the world succeed in their own internet marketing business. You can read more about them in their blog at: http://www.juliannerowatsblog.com or check out their business at http://www.ultimatewealthfromhome.com Her and her husband also have another business that will save you fuel mileage and help purify our air quality. Go green at http://www.makefuelsafe.com
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The Persistent Mind Prevails Over a Dormant One
The Persistent Mind Prevails Over a Dormant One
Through the ages of time we can all agree that the majority of the most persistent individuals have had the most success and the most impact on others. These individuals had a desire that the intensity level was one that which consumed them to a point there was nothing else, to a depth that there was no room for failure. Their persistent mind took complete control over their every day interactions from when they got up to when they went to sleep, but still their sub conscious mind still articulated ways to succeed as they slept. They touched the lives of many and still continue to touch us today as their legacy is still talked about and studied today.
Learning from your failures
The persistent mind realizes that a failure is just a snapshot in time; it is not the end of all, just a step closer to success. The persistent mind continues to analyze the situation over and over again until any failure is turned into success. So many times we may know of people that try a new project, take on a new educational platform or a new hobby. We watch as these individuals struggle with this new addition to their life and hear them start making excuses and just give up. I have heard excuses like “I don’t have the time”, “it’s too complicated “, “Johnny down the street tried it and it didn’t work, so it won’t work for me either”. Although most give up, we have all witnessed the one or two individuals go the extra 500 miles that we nickname a “trooper”, because they just don’t give up. As I write these words it reminds me of how we all had learned to walk as a young child, one step at a time. At the age of about twelve months we all started to learn to walk, while we did learn this once monumental task, it took time, we had the occasional fall but we were persistent. Why do you think we were so persistent; the reason is because we did not know what quitting was or that is was even an option for us, but aren’t you glad you didn’t. We all started by lifting ourselves up, take a step and fall flat on our face or bang our head against a coffee table or chair, and oh boy did we get mad, this pissed us off enough to do it all over again. We continued to put ourselves through this torture because of our determination and persistence to be able to walk. Walking meant freedom, freedom meant possibilities; possibilities lead to success, and success leads to more freedom. So I challenge you to get pissed off and keep doing it over again until you are “walking”.
After 12 No’s why stop?
A great example of being persistent is John Grisham and how he started writing his first book in his part time after witnessing a testimony of a 12 year old girl. John spent three years on the title known as “A Time to Kill” once finished he submitted his work to roughly 12 different publishers, which none of them were very excited about the content, they turned him down. John was not going to give up, he knew he had a good story so he kept trying and he came across a publisher named Wynwood Press and they bought it on a whim and took it to market with 5000 copies. This was a beginning of one of the most sought after authors that we know, his work is now known worldwide, and he has touched all of our lives with his many titles. He continues to fascinate us with his ability to write a good book and portray a world that you feel you are part of, just imagine if he would have given up after 12 no’s? Think about this, you may be thinking of giving up, but if you give up, there is the possibility that you are not only affecting yourself but others as well, maybe thousands or millions. John did not give up his passion to be a writer, just like him you have the ability to touch others lives, be persistent and don’t give up.
The Battle of Thermopylae
While many of us know this story well, others have the look like my wife, not a clue if I was speaking a foreign language or named a body part; this is an historic example of courage and persistence against all odds. This is a story of a great army lead by a group of 300 Spartan’s which were known for their military training and education that began at the age of seven. This great battle is known for the extreme odds, courageous mentality and persistence to protect their way of life. Around September of 480B.C. at the pass of Thermopylae they were confronted by an army of numbers in the millions, an army so large that whispers rolled through the hills in the wind saying they were unstoppable. An army so large that as they marched stories were told that it sounded like the gods destroying worlds that we have never seen just heard of. For a total of seven days the Spartans fought against odds that were never in their favor, except one; persistence, and they would have won this great conflict if it would have not been for betrayal of one of their own. Their story is still told and referenced today as one of the most memorable conflicts ever, and will continue to inspire each and every one of us to keep going even when the odds are stacked against us.
Persistence wears Resistance
We have all heard this saying time and time again, but many of us think about it differently. Every time I think of this saying or hear someone reference it I think of water on a constant drip on a bed of rocks, seems a little odd, yes I know but think about it. The drops of water are the persistence force that continues to strike against the bed of rocks (the resistance).If you find it hard to believe how water that continually strikes a rock will have any change, just look at the 1885 miles that runs from Colorado to Texas. You got it, the Rio Grande is a prime example of water forming rock and earth with continuous persistence. Talk about not giving up, the Rio Grande has been forming for 100 million years, it doesn’t get a chance to think about quitting and giving up, just like when we were learning to walk, a way was found no matter how long it took. While you may not 100 million years to build your business the philosophy is the same; never give up, even against the most unforsaken odds.
Don’t dare tell me you are too old
While I am very reluctant in telling this next section I feel I have too as it is very relevant to this article in being persistent and not giving up. See I grew up having a very rough childhood, not having much, but feeling fortunate that I was alive and not in a position as so many other children were in third world countries. Since there wasn’t much monetary support in or around my family, we went without many things, for example one of the most coveted gifts that a child could receive is a bike. Well as I said money was not growing on our tree in the back yard so I went without a bike, without for many, many years. I never had the opportunity to learn to ride a bike until a good friend named Steven lived in a apartment below me and had a bike, he was getting bored riding by himself and asked me to buy a bike. As you could imagine the fear flooded my body, here I was in my 20′s and never had the opportunity to learn to ride a bike, what was I to do? Lie to my friend, tell him I wasn’t interested in riding with him and having the chance to hurt his feelings or tell him the truth, well I took the high road. I told him my story and we went together and bought me a bike, we started riding around the neighborhood, then the park and then farther. While this was not an overnight feat, it was accomplished. It was accomplished because I was persistent and knew I wanted to learn to ride a bike and knew I could, also for all the people that could not ride a bike. I did it for them also knowing if I didn’t use my abilities to the best of my ability I was being ungrateful and didn’t deserve the opportunity. In telling my friend the truth and being persistent I learned to ride a bike and have a very strong friendship with Steven, we taught each other many things and am grateful for the experience.
While you may think you have no way of being successful, don’t give up. You can be like the 97 percent of people that give up if they the odds are stacked up against them, or you can make a choice. A choice to continue until the end where you are successful and you have built a legacy as one that never gave up, as one who inspired others and gave back to the world in such a positive manner. As the late Confucious said “Our greatest glory is not in never falling but in rising every time we fall”.
Here are a few states of mind when it comes to Persistence
Definite of Purpose
- what do you want;this has been said by many to be the most important step in developing persistence. The how is never important, the why is what drives you and your surroundings, it drives your actions.
Desire – What you desire above anything else will drive the mind to a level of persistence that enables you to succeed, you will find with a strong enough desire that your subconcious starts articulating the how for you in a effortless way.
Self Reliance - Believe in yourself, believe you can accomplish the plan that will lead you to your success, without belieef in yourself you will most likely fail, and if you are like me failure is not an option. Believe in yourself and others will see the passion and believe in you alos and support you in your endevours
Definiteness of Plans - a plan is just as it sounds, a road map to success, while not all plans have the same depth of thought, it may be unreasonable, it is still a plan – follow it daily, this devolps persistence. If you have to change the plan thats fine but once changed stick to the plan, WARNING !!! Don’t change your plan every couple days, give it awhile
Accurate Knowledge - Have you done your due diligence on the subject, have you studied the content, seeked out others perspective, studied the individuals that have succeeded around the subject. Don’t take the stance of throwing stuff on the wall and seing what sticks, get facts. This will support your mind in beleiving you can succeed.
Cooperation – Be kind to others, believe in them, support them, cooperate and mastermind with them, treat others as they would like to be treated
Will power - Everything you do should have some type of attatchment to what your plan is, if not you are wasting time, read your plan everyday, every night before you go to bed and during the day to keep the sharp focus you started with. Turn off that black box on the wall called the profit drainer!
Habit
– What you do day in and day out forms your mind and how it reacts to stimuli. If you are reading an hour a day about good content, you are training your mind to pick up information about books and good content. You are training your mind to pick up on this information as it crosses your path, what you do everyday and what you train your mind to become important actually does become important.
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About the Author:
Wishing you everlasting success,
Your friend and mentor,
Robert David Strong
If you are truly tired of the mundane 70+ hour work week, lost time with the family and feel there has to be a better way – I’m here to tell you there is.
Head to http://www.robertstrongmarketing.com and learn more.
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Change What You Can – Forget the Year-In-Review and Write Next Year's Plan Instead
Change What You Can – Forget the Year-In-Review and Write Next Year’s Plan Instead
It’s funny how the Year-In-Review process can quickly lead to an excuse to kick ourselves in the rear, or kick others in their rears. You probably don’t spend enough time trying to change what you can, so the Y-I-R process can be an excuse to call all the bad plays we’ve done and put them on display in our personal Jumbo-Tron.
Mind you, there’s a time and place where we should examine where we’ve been, what we’ve done and what we haven’t… but there’s no good reason on the planet why we ought to park it in morbid introspection. If hindsight is 20/20, why do we spend so little time looking forward, armed with what we have “learned” from the past, instead of barking more and wagging less? Forget the Year-in-Review spiel, which can quickly become the time to count the potholes in the road behind us. Look ahead to where you’re going!
Here’s a bit of a distilled plan to change what you can. Boil it down to:
1. Where have you been?
2. What would you like to change?
3. Plan it out, and don’t come back this way again.
Let’s take that a step at a time.
1. Where have you been?
Alright, this is the good use of the Year-In-Review. It’s a good thing, as Martha Stewart would say, to review where you’ve been, what you’ve been doing, and evaluate what’s working and what’s not (thank you, Dr. Phil). Put these into a list of “assets” and “liabilities,” or “pro’s” and “con’s,” or whatever it is you want to call them. It’s important to write this list down. Put it into a Google Documents, or whatever you use. I hear legal pads still work fine, too!
2. What would you like to change?
Narrow down your laundry list of things you would like to change. It may sound obvious, but make sure these are attributes and conditions that you actually have the power to change. Don’t get stuck making a list of things like, “I’d like to fire every incumbent in every level of government…” It’s also not helpful to make the goal so insurmountable that you won’t get there until Haley’s Comet returns. Focus on yourself, and not other people. You can’t change the world, just you.
3. Plan it out, and don’t come back this way again.
Make a plan. If it’s to get out of debt, then this may mean you talk to a financial adviser or get plenty of resources to help you do this right. What can you do to change what you can? Start with the goals in mind, and don’t try to change everything at once–prioritize! Divide and conquer.
Then commit to the premise that you won’t come back this road again. If your goal is to lose weight, stop buying Ben & Jerry’s… for a season… I mean, that stuff’s REALLY good. Seriously, commit to the change and you won’t have another Year-in-Review that sucks. Change what you can and keep improving yourself. It really can be done.
James M. Hussey is proud father to 6, happy husband to his lovely bride of 15 years and counting, and works a family business by day and building his websites by night. See his site at http://ellipticaltrainerexercise.com to find ellipticals for sale or find the best brands.
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