Posts Tagged ‘self doubt’
Do You Trust Yourself?
Do you trust yourself, or do you doubt yourself?
Do you trust the deep currents of your heart, the desire that is the essence of your being?
Whether we can truly trust ourselves depends on how aware we are. If we are walking through life with our eyes closed to a lot of what’s happening all around us, and especially what’s happening within us, we have every reason not to trust ourselves.
However if our eyes are open, so that we are present to our internal world as well as to our external world, then we have no reason to doubt.
Everything we need to know at a given time is readily available to us. The trouble is that we tend to shut our eyes to what we sense—what we are all the time picking up on and yet so often ignore because we don’t want to know.
Why wouldn’t we want to know?
How aware we are in turn depends on whether we like ourselves or whether we are constantly at war with ourselves, always trying to alter something about ourselves and fix ourselves.
The essence of trust in ourselves is our sense of our desirability.
I’m not talking romantic or physical desirability in the sense of our sexuality, personableness, or congeniality, but simply whether we feel wonderful in our inner being. In other words are we at peace with ourselves? Are we happy with ourselves?
You can recognize there are aspects of yourself that still need to be drawn out, areas in which you have yet to mature, without this undermining a quiet joyfulness at the heart of your being.
In infancy we were mostly happy with ourselves. We expected to be welcomed, wanted, embraced, delighted in. Self-doubt came later.
As long as we don’t feel comfortable with ourselves, we are going to want to hide aspects of ourselves. That’s when we close our eyes to what we really know—close our eyes to what’s happening around us.
Faith is trusting in ourselves, trusting the deep desire of our heart. It’s so very different from belief, which is trusting a set of mental concepts and propositions.
Even believing in ourselves is a mental concept. It’s trying to trust ourselves.
Trusting ourselves, which is real faith, flows spontaneously from knowing our essential goodness and relaxing into our desirableness.
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About the Author:
David Robert Ord is author of Your Forgotten Self Mirrored in Jesus the Christ and the audio book Lessons in Loving–A Journey into the Heart, both from Namaste Publishing, publishers of Eckhart Tolle and other transformational authors. He writes The Compassionate Eye daily, together with his daily author blog The Sunday Blog, at www.namastepublishing.com
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You Are A Dragon Slayer
Inventory Your Accomplishments To Build Self-Confidence
by Michael D. Hume, M.S.
It’s been my privilege to coach many of the world’s best and brightest young people over the last decade-plus, and one of the biggest issues they’ve presented has been that of self-confidence. Whether it’s the young consultant whose key client is twenty years his senior, or the talented singer who is sure she’ll be “found out” as an example of a mistake in the audition process, or the newly-promoted “high potential” person who hears criticisms behind his back that he’s too young for the job, confidence has been like gold to these folks: precious, and hard to find.
How’s your confidence? Are you, too, awaiting with dread that moment when you’re exposed as the imposter you think you might be? Do you feel limited in your attempts to do great things in the world by your own sense of powerlessness? Is it as simple as being unable to easily assert your own point-of-view, merely because something deep inside you says you don’t have the right?
It’s hard to be an inspirational leader without a basic level of confidence.
Here’s your homework assignment… it’s simple (though that doesn’t mean you won’t struggle with it) and powerful:
Count the dead dragons lying behind you.
You see, each of us occasionally finds himself in a period of low self-confidence. Even your dad, or that superstar at work who makes everything look easy, or that demanding customer… each of us, from time to time, inwardly entertains at least a morsel of self-doubt. It’s at such a time when you’ll feel like the knight of old, standing between the castle and the fire-breathing dragon before you. You have the armor. You have the shield, and the sword. But what you may lack is enough of a feeling of evidence that you are likely to slay the dragon, and not be its next charred snack.
At that point, turn around and look behind you. If you’re like most of my coachees over several years, you’ll see the bodies of many dragons you’ve slain. Maybe it was the grade card you were able to bring home from 8th grade… the time you caught the touchdown pass… the applause after a dance recital they said you’d never be ready for… the day you landed this great job… the day your business made its first dollar. Remember: each of these “dragons” looked just as menacing and scary before you slayed it!
Too often, smart and talented people don’t give themselves enough credit for their own accomplishments… and they stop seeing themselves as capable of accomplishing great things. Many times I think it’s because their accomplishments weren’t as difficult for them as the same achievements would’ve been for someone else, so emotionally, the victory doesn’t “count.”
So inventory your dead dragons. Actually sit down and write out a few stories, each no longer than several sentences, about some of those accomplishments. Include in each story what made the dragon scary at the outset, what you did, what obstacles you overcame, and how utterly devastated you left the dragon at the end.
Perhaps the most typical finding on the part of my coachees who’ve conducted this exercise goes something like this: “I am afraid of what I don’t know about this impending problem, but problems always include uncertainties, and I am actually a learning machine… by the time I need to know the stuff that’ll solve this problem, I’ll have learned it, if anyone can.”
Yes, you are a dragon slayer. You tackle the world’s toughest stuff and make it look easy. You dream, and then turn that dream into reality in the face of withering criticism. You’re powerful. You are an entrepreneur in the world, creating something out of nothing, and not a victim. You don’t call 9-1-1, you ARE 9-1-1.
So count up your dead dragons, and then use your revitalized confidence to start a business, overhaul your own health, launch a project, create a work of art, whatever.
I pity that next dragon.
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About the Author:
Michael Hume is a speaker, writer, and consultant specializing in helping people maximize their potential and enjoy inspiring lives. As part of his inspirational leadership mission, he coaches executives and leaders in growing their personal sense of well-being through wealth creation and management, along with personal vitality.
Those with an entrepreneurial spirit who want to make money “one less thing to worry about” can learn more about working with Michael at http://oneyearplan.net/michaeldhume
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Michael and his wife, Kathryn, divide their time between homes in California and Colorado. They are very proud of their offspring, who grew up to include a homemaker, a rock star, a service talent, and a television expert. Two grandchildren also warm their hearts! Visit Michael’s web site at http://michaelhume.net
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You can become great! by © 2010 Shishir Srivsatava, Author, Motivational Speaker and Peace Educator
You can become great!
‘The person who is certain to advance is the one who is too big for his place, who has a clear concept of what he wants to be, who knows that he can become, what he wants to be, and who is determined to be what he wants to be.’ —Anonymous
After World War II, a small group of people gathered with its leaders in a burnt-out departmental store in devastated Tokyo. They had nothing but the strong belief that they could develop technologies that would help rebuild Japan’s economy, which had been destroyed by the war. Those twenty people had the conviction that even though Japan did not have sufficient natural resources, it did have the necessary people-power.
The company they founded amid the debris was Sony, an immense success story today. What kept Akio Morita, the CEO of Sony Corporation, going was the Power of Self-confidence.
Self-confidence is an attitude which helps to build a positive and realistic perception of ourselves and our abilities. It is about expressing our assertiveness, optimism, enthusiasm, affection, pride, independence and trust. Though we may be inspired in a moment to achieve something great in life, self-confidence is not built overnight. It is the affirmation and reaffirmation of positive and self-empowering beliefs. Our self-confidence is shaped by what we repeatedly tell our subconscious mind.
The law of self-confidence says that whatever you believe with certainty will become your reality. If you repeat something over and over to yourself, your subconscious mind starts believing it to be real. It cannot distinguish between positive and negative things. If you say to yourself ‘I can’t', it will believe it; if you say ‘Yes, I can’, it will believe that too.
‘Life’s battles don’t always go
To the stronger or faster man.
But sooner or later, the man who wins
Is the man who thinks he can.’ —C.W. Longenecker
All great achievers, all self-made millionaires and anyone who ever achieved anything worthwhile started with self-doubt. Most of us begin with doubt and an inferiority complex. Every man or woman who has ever achieved anything worthwhile went through a phase where they had little or no confidence. But they did not give up. With courage and faith in themselves, they one day set out on the long journey towards their goal.
Be it an interview, an examination, an instance of public speaking or anything else, you can ‘feel’ the situation you are about to face—and, more important, prepare yourself for it—beforehand. The more you put yourself in real-life situations, the more your confidence will grow and the better your performance will be. So practise, practise, practise and your self-confidence will get a boost.
Self-confidence is formed through positive beliefs. Self-confidence comes through repetitive affirmation. It is strengthened by positive thoughts that give us courage and confidence to do things right. As you start believing in yourself, your self-confidence builds up.
Two Action Steps:
Step 1: Say to yourself daily in the morning as you get up: I’m building upon my self-confidence today and feel myself changing and improving each day.
Step 2: Say to yourself daily before going to sleep: I dream and have confidence in my dreams. I believe I can fulfil my dreams.
Success Mantra: Have full confidence in your powers. Keep telling yourself that your future will evolve just the way you want it to—and that this will happen sooner rather than later.
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About the Author:
SHISHIR SRIVASTAVAPeace Educator, Motivational Speaker and Author of ‘The Eight Powers within You’www.shishirsrivastava.org, www.eightpowers.com
Shishir Srivastava born at Lucknow, India on 26 September 1977, is a motivational speaker and peace educator. He is currently serving as the Head of the Department of Personality Development and Career Counselling of City Montessori School (CMS), Lucknow, India.
CMS is Shishir’s alma mater where he imbibed the values of peace and non-violence for 15 years. CMS is recognized by the Guinness Book of World Records as the ‘world’s largest school with over 39,000 students’ and is the recipient of the UNESCO Prize for Peace Education 2002. Shishir has travelled widely and has visited several countries including USA, Japan, Germany, Singapore, Mauritius, Malaysia, Spain, Russia, Maldives and Seychelles. He and his wife, Sophia, have a seven-year-old son, Srijan.
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Manifestation Techniques Made Easy
The law of attraction has been discussed in depth for quite some time now. Like attracts like and our thoughts create our reality. Most of us have heard this but how many of us are actually using our mind to manifest what we truly want in life?
In a time when it is so easy to get bogged down with daily living and feed off of self-doubt, frustration and lack of energy, we can forget that the mind chatter in our head is actually creating our daily lives.
How do we use our thoughts to manifest our desires?
We have the knowledge but how do we put it to good use? There are a couple of ways:
- My favorite manifestation tool is the use of binaural beats and brainwave entrainment. With binaural beats audio we can tune our brains into the precise frequency for many different altered states of mind… including for manifestation. Typically these types of recordings come in either MP3 format or on CD’s. They can be listened to regularly and the benefits can be fantastic.
- The next way to manifest your desires is through simple thought control. By setting the time aside every day to focus on the positive changes that you wish to achieve you can actually begin the manifestation process with your thoughts. Creativity is the first step in all manifestation and we must create the picture and the thoughts in our heads before it can manifest in our lives.
Dealing with the Subconscious
It is not always easy to deal with our subconscious minds but that is exactly what we want to do. When we take the time to sit, relax, deep breathe and focus we are essentially letting our conscious mind sleep so that we are able to deal directly with our subconscious.
Taking control of our own thoughts is simply a matter of changing habits. Negative thoughts become habitual and can be difficult to stop. Even when we are the most focused they can creep back in and cause feelings of self-doubt. It takes daily practice of positive thinking to change our thought patterns and our subconscious habits but it is absolutely doable.
The only thing that stops us from manifesting what we really want in life is ourselves. If we allow ourselves to tap into our subconscious mind then we can manifest anything we want in life. Whether you do this through binaural beats or brainwave entrainment or through the daily process of changing your thinking manifestation is not only possible but a continuous motion of energy that you can work with.
To learn much more about manifestation visit www.BinauralBeatsOnline.com where you’ll find helpful self-development tips and information as well as reviews for the best sources of binaural beats.
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