We work so hard to ‘establish and maintain’ a certain familiar distinctiveness in ourselves, according to how we inadvertently label success, financial freedom, recognizable sought after happiness/wealth/riches: ‘making it to the top.’

Which supposedly offers us a comfortable individual security, merited place of notoriety, including an emotionally attached favored ‘looked up-to’ identity of sorts?

We are trying so hard to get it right, make our mark, ‘be somebody’, do it before the next guy cashes in; we tend to overlook and undervalue how much precious  time is sucked away in fueling our self-vested fabricated idolized misery.

Along with the desperately sought after unshakable security, [arriving at the place we believe to be significant and worthy of praise and recognition] a certain self-projected respect demanding ‘holier than thou’ foreboding energy attaches itself to the ‘one being in the know.’

The more we project we know, or have need to know anything, the less we are in the vicinity of finding out. In other words, we are always hopelessly lost; no matter the outer ‘toys of distraction’ we exploit to prove otherwise.  (Ambiguity)

Moreover, during the falsely saturated time of cherished self-intoxicated elevated position, we silently refute and resent the parroted place of fictitious harmony while, lacking in true peace, are superficially traveling incognito, defiantly in search of finding our ‘true selves’ in an attempt to fill the gaping hole we live with. (Paradox)

“Surely true peace of mind can be had, IF only I knew how to do the right things to get it.”

“This cannot be all there is”, we silently reassure ourselves, as we once again succumb to our fractured mind’s taunting insistence; “Don’t Worry. Have hope. It’s going to get better. You won’t feel like this, always.”

The relentless torrid mind ridicules us at every turn, as we try to calm our restless seething nature.

Nothing could be worse than for us to heed the deceitful luring words of hopeful resolution. (Ambiguity) There’s no peaceful resolution to be had for there’s nothing to resolve. (Paradox)  “This IS as good as it gets.”

An absolute insidious mockery of the worst kind results when we arrive at the place where we think we should be, doing what we ought to be doing, saying what we need to say, performing the comparable expected majestic duties attached to the “IDEA” of success whether in marriage, career, education, and/or on a spiritual platform.

If the truth be known, as unpleasant as it sounds to fragile ears:  to supposedly arrive at the situation where ‘We’ve made it” nothing short of drinking an 8 ounce bottle of absinthe laced cyanide can eradicate the infectious feelings of unutterable disdain and disgust.

We are living in complete ubiquitous ambiguity and indemonstrable paradox. To deny the reality of its liberating premise produces unalterable agony.

To declare with full certainty that we KNOW what to do and HOW to do and with WHOM to do it is a complete boldfaced lie! It would be like saying one path is better than another path. No. Impossible.

All roads lead home if you don’t KNOW where HOME is located!

Adjusting to the undeniable fact that things are constantly (appearing so) thrown out of order simply to be rearranged in a different framework, requires an ineffable courage and merciless determination not to be swayed by visual “human appetite suppressants.”

Whether these suppressants be in the form of relationships, spirituality, career, fame, prestigious positions in society, celebrity/sports recognition, accolade mastery, extended idolatrous vain attritions of celebrate honor, or simply ‘following someone else’ who has thoroughly convincingly marketed himself/herself and the ‘miracle fix products, programs, or processes’ as ones who ‘have the goods’, the end result is the same: melancholy.

Nothing could be further from road of acquiesced contentment than to believe we must be saved, rescued, set free, and/or bailed out.  Our real business remains obscured as long as we look for it and ‘who we are.’

We are to abandon the idea and any recognizable reference to hope. Hope implies doubt.  If we hope for a better tomorrow we are admitting our today is less than perfect.

Our days are the immutable ledges upon which we stand to view the sun, rain, snow, winds and drought with uncompromising gratitude.  IF we could change our ledges, (we can’t) we would alter our indistinguishably programmed DNA molecules which comprise our celestially organized structured beings.

The more we try to change any aspect of our delicately magically ordered selves, relationships, careers, education, physical bodies, and variegated lives the less productive and contributory we experience ‘pure raw authenticity’ in our existence.

In addition, by inaccurately assuming when we arrive or have arrived that we would not lash out at those who have loved, supported and connected with us on our renowned journey is pointless.

The more successful we think of ourselves, the more unsuccessful we tend to view others.  By reason of comparison and measurement, we must have a podium of reference for our advantageous highly coveted awarded singled out accomplishments.

So what are we to do?  Cease striving, measuring, tabulating, competing and planning! Relax by facing each moment honestly with no glamorized emotional reaction. “If at any moment we think we know what we are doing and why we are doing, cease immediately.”

Invite ambiguity and paradox into the grand ballroom. Put on our finest attire. Offer them the better of the best we have in our closets.  Allow the reality of death’s encroaching reality as the parade of victory to be celebrated and enriched.

Pretend not that he will stay his hand until we have finished our business. We have no business except for living/laughing/loving each moment of our soapbox infused lives unconditionally and rapturously content just to be here.

Don’t hold back.

Do what we sacredly sensually sexually passionately creatively love to do all the time.  Look for no beneficial result, applause or appreciation.

Now and forever with no hope of excuses, defense, explanations, or recognition, breathe in the moment of self-generated ecstasy and release every single mouse dropping bit of it with the exhale.

Start afresh uncertain not having or wanting a clue. Live without security and destination. It’s the only way we do.

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If you buy your lover flowers, and they come home to tell you they just received a raise at work – the flowers you give them are just going to add to their joy, and you are going to have a wonderful evening.

However, if you buy your lover flowers, and they come home to tell you they just got fired from work – they may look at the flowers and give a quick smile just to acknowledge you and quickly go back to sulking – or worse, they may be hateful and yell, “WHAT GOOD ARE FLOWERS GOING TO DO ME NOW?!?!? ARE THEY HIRING FLORISTS?!?!”

Of course, this is common sense – but it is a perfect example of why people pleasing doesn’t work 100% of the time. You will never be able to predict what kind of mood anyone is going to be in all the time, simply because things will always happen outside of our control. Consequently, your happiness or misery is in the other person’s hands, which puts you into a very vulnerable position.

I have developed what I call, “The People Pleasing Quadrant” to broaden readers awareness of what people-pleasing is, and what to do once those people-pleasing tendencies rear their ugly heads. Quadrant means “four” which means there are four different situations you will find yourself in that you will need to develop strategies to combat your people-pleasing tendencies. The four situations are as follows:

Quadrant # 1: Dealing with the people you like or love when those people ALSO like or love you in return:

This first quadrant is the easiest to manage, because at least you genuinely like or love the person you are dealing with, and they like or love you as well. However, remember the example we used above about the lover losing their job and the flowers? No matter how much you like or love someone, or how much they like or love you, bad things happen sometimes. We all say things we don’t mean. The trick is to not take the people you care about personally, and feel responsible for “fixing” them. Let the person you like and love be hurt, angry, mad, and upset. It doesn’t have to affect your core happiness, although you can sympathize with the person and let them know you will be there for them, if they want to talk. Besides, this person cares about you – and they don’t want to drag you down, just because they are having a bad day. Give them a little space, and let things sort themselves out. Spend your energy focusing on more productive ventures, such as going for a jog to get in shape, studying for an important test, or reading a book that is of interest to you. People-pleasing is really annoying to people who like or love you already. They don’t expect you to make everything better, they just need some time to get over it.

Quadrant # 2: Dealing with the people you like or love when those people DON’T like or love you in return:

The second quadrant is oftentimes the most painful quadrant to come to terms with, regardless if it is about a “friend,” family member, or lover. Once in a great while, we can like or even love someone who doesn’t like or love us in return. We do everything in our power to be “good” enough, “supportive” enough, “encouraging” enough, “kind” enough, whatever enough! But somehow, it is never enough, and it never will be.

Once in awhile, these people we like or love are nice to us out of pity, guilt, regret or remorse – or because we are fulfilling some kind of need for them that they don’t want to give up. Don’t mistake their temporary kindness as genuine concern! Because honestly, these people don’t like or love us at all. It could be for a variety of reasons, but those reasons don’t have anything to do with you. The trick for getting over people-pleasing in this quadrant is to realize what quadrant these people belong in, and come to terms with the fact that they don’t like or love you. On the other hand, realize that there are millions of other people out here who would absolutely adore you. Realize that you are wasting your valuable and precious time with people pleasing, especially in this quadrant, because no matter what you do, it won’t matter. Just move on to someone who will like, love and appreciate the beautiful person you are.

Quadrant # 3: Dealing with the people you DON’T like or love when those people DO like or love you.

Most of the people-pleasing in this quadrant comes out of guilt, pity or personal gain. Although I must admit, it is really hard not to like someone who likes you, but you may be able to definitely see that the other person likes or loves you WAY more than you likeor love them.

I believe my grandmother taught me a very gracious lesson about how to handle situations in quadrant three. One day, a boy who just moved into my neighborhood decided to ask me out on a date. He really had a crush on me, and I could tell. However, I didn’t feel the same way about him. But I did enjoy all of the flowers, candy and attention he gave me. 

At the time, I didn’t see anything wrong with taking whatever he was willing to give. But my grandmother pulled me aside and told me why it wasn’t nice to encourage gestures and lead a person on, especially when I knew his intentions. Of course, I liked him as a person because he was so sweet. But the truth of the matter is, he was wasting his time courting me when I wasn’t interested. Although I could have continued to use him, I went with granny’s advice and politely told him that I could no longer accept gifts because I was not interested in dating anyone at that time.

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You can lead revolution and transformation of this generation that is for documentation of recognition, you can write an epoch-making epistolary that will epitomize our age and ages to come, you can direct and produce award-winning movies, sing soul-lifting songs or lead movements that will ameliorate lives, end malice, malign and melee, resolve conflicts and create memorable memorandum that will give people cause to meet with directly mesmeric and meritable merriment and have peace of mind.

You can implement successful business plans and packages that is taking the money world to the Next Dimension, you can come with head-turning and ineffable innovations that will transmute and modify the status of the scientific, technological or arts world in less than a second…it only takes you believing in yourself.

Believe you can fly so high as the eagle and elucidate the soupçon of susurration, buzz, fizzle, whiz and silver-lining façade of the cloud even if the earth is in a blaze, the world in a maze, the sphere in a raze and the inhabitants laze away.

You can open a neoteric chapter and get to the top-notch in your field of study, sphere of contact, realm of influence and beyond your province. You can inspire neoteric aspirations, you can inspire society and commonalty to aspire to the notch and not to expire, you can call-into-being neoteric ways of looking at the system that drives the progress of humanity.You can focus your eyes on the time to come, put two and two together to get to the bottom of the world real challenges:

You can bring people to their feet to carry to successful completion their purpose for living which is tied to their success and prosperity, you can encourage, enable, enlighten, enrich and empower society and commonalty to manifest their ability, creativity, ingenuity and originality, you can give a slip of a boy (or girl) and the full-grown a shot in the arm to get sophic in their potentiality than doing the amorality and dishonesty; you can put a stop to debauchery, treachery, trickery, dodgery, forgery and skullduggery to bring out the raving beauty of this world and, bring your excellence and integrity to happy issue.

Believe in your mission; bring to a happy issue things you really set your heart upon, master your life, understand the you that can derive and unfold, seek and employ your purpose! You can, for sure you can; come into relation with CataPult-2-Succcess formular: Courage and Practice will distinguish you and the whole world will panegyrize you.

Copyright, Anyaele Sam Chiyson

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ANYAELE SAM CHIYSON, A Writer, Computer Scientist, Leadership expert, Marriage Counselor, Business Consultant; an Electrical/Electronics engineer, Info-&-Entrepreneur is the Founder/CEO of Chiysonovelty International & Head of Operations – Before40 Youth Empowerment Foundation for better Citizenship. He has created businesses and raised authors of credibility. He has authored works of wealth and wisdom including a Best-Selling Knowledge Book – The Sagacity of Sage. He is also a Motivational/Inspirational/Financial speaker; an immortal who believes in inspiring all and sundry live a healthy, happy and totally-fulfilled life. His Soon-to-be-released Book – The Richest & Strongest Man in The world is an invention that would ignite/initiate the desired changes that eluded the World’s brightest and smartest minds and the key operators of the world’s largest economies; it is the choicest one! His work – The Sagacity of Sage is more than a book and a must-read for every man and woman!

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We all had something familier to this happen to us. It’s called Intuition.

In these busy times we usually dismiss it or just don’t pay attention to that little voice or that “Gut Feeling”.

Well you could benefit  if you to started listening to and trusted your intuition more. You may have to learn how to do this again. It was probably more natural to do when you were younger.

Here are some tips that could help you to use your intuition more or at least get you into a better state of mind and release some stress.

• Find a quiet Place
• Breathe deeply a few times
• Quiet the voices in your head
• Remember a pleasant experience or memory
• Imagine time is passing and that you are weeks into the future and your problems no longer exist
• Let go of your problem
• Go forward with your daily routines with a feeling of expecting great things and be aware of any hunches or ideas you have

Try this for a few days or a week and see what you think.