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Held Captive by: Low self-esteem

On my weight loss journey I keep meeting the most awesome and amazing people. Some of them have made me laugh some of them have made me cry but they all have made me want to understand and identify with them. So I started compiling a list of the things that I believe hold us captive. The first thing I notice is that most of us are suffering from, have suffered from or will suffer from is bouts of low-self esteem.

I admit I was blessed with awesome parents. Every time society, would stick a bumper sticker on me that said something negative my parents would replace it with something positive. Those messages from my parents still play through my head. “Come on you can do it!” “Finish what You start young lady” “Give it your best” “Don’t you dare give up on you!” My parents programmed me so well that I continually play those tapes even more so when I am at my weakest point they give me strength and help me achieve the mission.

 Well bravo for me, but I soon learned that there were others who weren’t so blessed. They got to hear all the unkind stuff while they were still developing, words like ” You’re stupid” “You’re dumb” ” You will never amount to anything” “You’re fat and ugly” words that hurt sting and shape little souls and break little spirits. Low-self esteem chops at the very core of a human.

Painful words that fill his or her head with lies, shame and guilt; words that robs a person of seeing their G-d-given greatness; it robs a person of seeing their true beauty and worth. The key to healing from low-self esteem is to tell yourself the truth even when nobody else will. Replace all those old tapes that say you are not pretty enough, or smart enough or strong enough. The very fact that you are alive means you have something to offer, and something to share. Free yourself from the monster of low-self esteem, hang around people who build you up. Have a mantra that you say everyday let it get deep in the core of your being. Nope I don’t care if even you don’t believe it at first just keep saying it until you do. An example would be “I am worthy of love” refuse to be remain prisoner to low self-esteem.

Treat yourself like the one of a kind treasure you really are….valuable, unique, precious and worthy of love.

Tammie-Maria Allen© 2006-2010

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About the Author:
Tammie-Maria Allen is a passionate artist,writer,model and musician,She is also a  multifaceted business woman and a certified personal trainer.
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Five words that changed someone’s life.

By Dennis Fisher.

Words – either written or spoken – have extraordinary power to affect people’s lives in a number of different ways.  They can arouse positive emotions that will encourage people to perform actions and achieve goals they never realized they were capable of reaching.  Words can also be responsible for producing emotions so harmful they can have a negative effect on person’s sense of self-worth and self-esteem.  The emotional scars caused by thoughtless, tactless and damaging comments can remain with them for the rest of their life.

The full impact of the power of words was brought home to me very dramatically a short while ago.

A number of years ago my wife, who is a professional handwriting analyst and has a popular website on the internet graphology-world.com

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received a sample of handwriting from a teen-aged young man who wanted to have his handwriting analyzed

 As soon as my wife read the letter it was clear the youngster was very distressed and desperately unhappy. It was obvious that he suffered from very low self-esteem and had a number of problems which he felt unable to cope with.

His letter was a cry of despair.  He had a very low opinion of himself and felt he was incapable of achieving anything worthwhile in life.

 It appeared that the boy’s father, a rugged, outdoor type and a successful businessman who had also been a prominent sportsman in his earlier years, was disappointed that the youngster had shown no talent in any sporting activity; neither had he ever distinguished himself as a student.  The youngster was aware of his father’s disappointment as a result of comments that had been made.

In his letter to my wife the young man wanted to know whether it was possible for my wife to see any indication at all at in his handwriting of any talents he possessed of which he was unaware.

The detailed analysis of hand writing is not something that can be done simply by a casual glance at a handwriting sample.  It requires many hours of careful scrutiny in which dozens of different indications of character are carefully pieced together to provide a composite and accurate picture of the writer’s personality.  Because of this, the professional charges for this service can be fairly costly.

The young man explained in his letter that he was still a student and couldn’t   afford to pay required fee for the analysis he needed so desperately. Neither did he want to borrow the money from his parents as he was didn’t want them  to know that he had written this letter.

The young man went on to say that he would be very grateful indeed if my wife would be prepared to do the analysis free of charge, but realized that this was probably too much to ask.

My wife was impressed with the obvious sincerity expressed in the young man’s letter and the urgency of his need for some positive feedback.  She decided to do the analysis of his handwriting and not to make any charge at all.   

A detailed study of the youngster’s handwriting revealed that he was a person of great sensitivity with a very caring nature and a number of fine qualities.  It was also clear to her that that he definitely had significant latent talents and skills. 

She sent him a warm, compassionate, encouraging email with a details of the many fine qualities she found in his handwriting.

My wife received an immediate acknowledgement of her email thanking her profusely for her generosity and kindness. 

That was ten years ago.  Since then she heard nothing at all from the young man for whom she had felt so much sympathy… until a short while ago.

Suddenly, out of the blue, a few weeks ago she received a letter from the young man she had helped so many years ago by giving him the self-confidence he so desperately needed at the time.

 The tone of this letter was quite different from the anguished cry for help she had previously received.   The young man informed my wife that he had qualified as a Veterinarian; found the work with animals satisfying and fulfilling and was very happy indeed with his career and his life. 

The young man assured my wife he would be forever grateful for her help and the words of encouragement in the email she had sent him so many years ago.  Her message had meant a great deal to him. He had been feeling desperately low at the time, filled with sense of his own inadequacy.

He went on to say it was the first five words in my wife’s e-mail that had triggered off  the positive emotions in his mind that led to a change in his life.   

My wife was very pleased indeed to learn that this detailed, favorable handwriting analysis had had such a positive effect on someone’s life.

I asked her if she could remember what she written so many years ago and if she could recall what  were the five words to which the young man referred.

It wasn’t necessary for my wife to consult her records.  She replied immediately: “Of course, I remember.  It was clear this boy with such a low opinion of himself had no reason to feel inadequate. He was a young man with a great deal of promise and this is exactly what I wrote:  You really are someone special!”

Even though I had very little to do with this story with a happy ending, I have also derived a certain measure of satisfaction, for the following reason. 

It has always been my belief that everyone should try and develop their talents and creative powers to the very best of their ability.  For this reason, when my wife first showed an interest in learning more about the fascinating field of handwriting analysis more than thirty five years ago, I encouraged her in every way possible to study with leading experts in the fileld all over the world, so that become a recognized authority  herself.  

My wife has found the practice of her craft intellectually stimulating and extremely satisfying.  It represents the essence of creative thinking. This is a subject in which I have always been profoundly interested.  

If there are creative areas of your life that you would like to develop to the fullest extent and would like to know more about creativity and creative thinking, you are invited to visit the following website where you’ll find a great deal that will inspire and stimulate you  http://www.creativemindpowers.com

 

 

 

 

 

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About the Author:
 Dennis Fisher has spent many years studying the source of  creative powers, creativity, the sixth sense,meditation, intuition and ways to improve creative imagination.     He has written extensively about these subjects.  For information about the comprehensive book he has written, “The Complete Guide to Creative Power” that  deals  in great detail with these  subjects and provides effective techniques to develop creativite thinking,  visit the following website:  http://www.creativemindpowers.com
  
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Musical Integrity

Where musical integrity exists one feels the aliveness, uplifting, creative spirit from which it is produced. One feels inspired and enriched. Music created this way is always fresh and exhilirating and is food for the soul. To underestimate the value of this is indeed foolish.

How is it then that so much of the music we hear today is so mindless, created for a mass market popularized and controlled by those who are only interested in keeping it that way so they can make money out of it for themselves. In the meantime the general public’s ears are being assualted by the same old tunes over and over again. This repetitive rubbish dulls the senses which are otherwise sharp and focused. When the senses are suitably dulled we are in effect robbed of the heightened state of awareness which is our birthright. Dulled senses produce feelings of despondency, depression, helpnessness, low self-esteem, attention problems, hyperactivity and a whole host of other things.

That’s not to say that mass marketed music has no place in the overall scheme of things only that there is rather too much of it and we need to work to restore the balance. By supporting those who are actively working to produce music with integrity we are restoring the balance so sorely needed in the world today.

Musical Integrity Part II

Conscious music has the power to bring something new into being this is how important it is.

The most primordial sounded word is a sacred mantra OM. Conscious music is a carrier of that which is sacred. All spiritual keys penetrate into the depths of being through an organic and gentle process of integration which begins intellectually but proceeds tothe realm of intuition and finally lodges with the birth of insight.

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Susanna Lepianka – (dreamsareforliving.com)
You’ll all see that I’ve been changing a few things as I continue to develop this site. Thanks to everyone for their support so far and I’m glad you all enjoy this site.  The qualities for success are sincerity, commitment, focus, integrity, drive, passion, energy, clarity, action. I have developed a page on Facebook called The People’s Trust which was partly borne out of this site and listening to (and being inspired by) the people I have come into contact with, one person in particular, (they know who they are.) If you click on the facebook badge it will take you directly to the facebook page where you can add any comments, discussions or notes etc., you can also post onto my wall. I look forward to meeting you there. I have set up a forum which is working now so please do post on it or leave comments. Nabble take it off if it’s not used.”Everything you can imagine is real” Pablo Picasso

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Few people realize that the best way to achieve your goals of happiness and success is simply through raising your self esteem. It’s surprising nowadays how many people genuinely suffer from very low self esteem, and it’s a problem that most people feel holds them back from enjoying their lives and achieving their goals and ambitions. Most people feel like their self esteem cannot be changed, and that if it’s low it’s likely to remain low, but this is simply not true, the great thing about your self esteem is that you can improve it yourself, no matter how low you feel it is.

Most people assume that self esteem is how high your confidence is, where this is somewhat true, it is not entirely the case. Self confidence does come into it, but your self esteem as a whole is a lot more than this. There are, in fact, many people throughout the world who are very confident yet have very low self esteem, people who often fall into this category tend to be singers, actors and comedians, who often give off an aura of confidence on stage, yet off stage they feel insecure. The word ‘esteem’ itself is actually Latin, and means ‘to estimate’ therefore, self esteem is how you estimate yourself as a person. In order to do this, there are 5 questions you must ask yourself, and the answers will dictate your self-esteem.

These questions are:

Am I deserving of love?

Do I think that I am a good human being?

Am I deserving of happiness?

Deep down, do I feel that I am a good person?

And finally, Do I like myself?

Those who find it hard to answer any of those questions with ‘yes’ are often sufferers of poor self esteem. If you found that you answered many of these questions with ‘no’ then you’re not alone, and there are things that you can do in order to improve your self esteem as well as your quality of life.

The first step is to simply take on board that you are a wonderful and special, and there is nobody in the world like you, you are completely unique, all your thoughts and feelings are all your own and you are the only one in control. This means that out of a total of over six billion people in the whole world, you are a one-off creation and completely original. So surely, if you are the only one of you on the whole planet, then surely you should feel and accept that you have just as much right as any other person to be on this earth? It’s an unusual way of looking at it, but this simple first step can often open up your eyes to the world around you and your originality.

The second thing is to realize that you are entitled to make mistakes, just like anyone else, the only way we learn is by getting things wrong before we get them right, do stop being so hard on yourself, you’re only human and you have the right to make mistakes sometimes. Respect yourself and allow yourself to make these mistakes, and above all, don’t beat yourself up afterwards.

There are a few other things you can do that might help you to realize the positives about yourself and raise your self esteem. One popular technique is the ’50 things I like about me’ list, this list is something you need to write yourself and if you’re severely lacking in self esteem it could take you quite a while, but persevere, don’t try and write it if you’re having a particularly low or bad day, take time out when you’re feeling okay and create a list of things that you like about yourself. Having this list is a great thing to come back to, as you start to think throughout your day about the different things you may not have realized that you do that you like about yourself. It’s sounds unusual, but it’s worth a go, and it can work wonders. You can write anything from your characteristics, your looks, even the nice things you do from day to day. Once it’s completed, keep it somewhere that you can see it and be constantly reminded that you have many good qualities. Once you’ve reached 50 comes the hard part, try and add to it every so often, for the rest of your life, in order to constantly remind yourself of the good things you do from day to day.

Self esteem can be awkward to raise, especially if yours is particularly low, but it can be done, and starting small is the best thing you can do. Try these tips, and you might be surprised about the difference it makes on the short and long term.

If this seems too difficult to accomplish by yourself, you may need the assistance of a coach. A coach will help you stay on task, see things about yourself that you don’t see, guide you and motivate you to discover who you really are and all you can accomplish when you believe in yourself. Who needs a coach? We all do!

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About the Author:
Diana Samalot lives in Port Saint Lucie, Florida with the love of her life Jim, her 2 teenage twin daughters, Giselle and Gabriella, her 3 dogs Faith, Major and Roxie and her cat Shadow.Diana is a Life and Success Coach and founder of DoItNowCoach.com. Her life experiences, dedication, understanding, patience and desire to help people makes her a compassionate coach for people who want to embark in the exciting journey of self discovery, self empowerment and growth. Diana helps people discover who they really are, the gifts and strengths that are within them but not yet discovered or developed to make possible the positive changes in their lives that they need not just to survive but to thrive and succeed; to overcome self limiting beliefs for those that have the strong desire to do so. If you have a strong desire to make the positive changes in your life that you need and to overcome self limiting beliefs that are preventing you to succeed in your relationships, finances and/or health go to http://www.doitnowcoach.com/sq and subscribe to her Free newsletter.
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Going through a break up is not an easy feat to reach. But, there are a some points and ideas that can help you do it more easygoing and quicker. Sure enough getting over a break up gets more pleasing with time but you can affect that time move sleeker by keeping a constructive attitude and centralizing on you. Getting over a break up is in reality an ideal time to focus on your life and on improving yourself.

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While getting over a low self esteem during breakup it may be enticing to go on reach the person you no longer have relationship with and ask why or endeavor to put the pieces back together. This is the unworthiest thing you want to play because it holds open the person fresh in your mind. You want a little space to gain some perspective, analyse your feelings and see what was wrong from a nonsubjective position. Under no settings should you pursue in sexual activity with your ex.

For attempting to get over a break up, take care of with your emotions the best you can. You can feel wrath, unhappiness, and guilt. If you necessitate a good weep for awhile, don?t be terrified to do so. It can be good. Your friends and family are there to help you so use them. Talk to them about your wounds and listen to their advice. Sometimes friends can give a fresh view on things and make you feel better. If nothing else takes place, you can be engaged with their company so you are not continually remembering of somebody who hurt you

Take a look at your life. In getting over a break up, it is the perfect time to worry about your lacks and necessities. Who concerns what your ex believes? Do you desire to cut your hair, get new apparel, take a class or make some modifications in your life? This is a ideal time to practice those things. Coddle yourself a little while. You may not have shopped for a new clothing a month ago but do it now. You will feel a lot more positive. Don?t exaggerate it, though, or your money issues might substitute your relationship woes! To cope with an emotional breakup is not comfortable, but with a few insights and ideas, on steps to cope with a break up it is achievable.

Throughout the guide I referred to a step by step plan to follow that almost guarantees getting over your ex. You can get it here: Get Over Break Up Quickly.! If you are tired and want to change your life, this guide will outline for you step by step what you need to do to make sure you succeed in getting over your ex and move on into your life.

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Ending a relation especially during a break up is a terrible feat to carry through. Even So, there are a some tips and ideas that can help you make it more effortless and more fast-paced. For certain getting over a break up becomes more painless with time but you can take that time proceed more imperviable by keeping a constructive attitude and focusing on you. Getting over a break up is really an ideal time to concentrate on your goals and on improving yourself.

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Though to cope with a low self esteem during breakup it may be influencing to go on meet the person you shouldn’t and ask why or seek to put the pieces back together. This is the worst thing you want to do because it holds back the person clear in your mind. You want a little distance to get some position, study your feelings and study what went bad from a neutral view. Under no settings should you pursue in sexual activity with your ex.

In seeking to get over a break up, maintain your stress level and with your emotions to start with. You may sense wrath, gloominess, and guilt. If you call for a good scream for awhile, don?t be reluctant to do so. It can be healing. Your friends and family are there to help you so use them. Talk to them about your suffering and listen to their suggestions. Sometimes a third party can give a fresh look on matters and make you feeling better. If nothing else materialises, you can be busy with their company so you are not continually thinking of the other persom

Work on you. While getting over a break up, it is the ideal time to concern about your needs and necessities. Who fears what your ex thinks? Do you wish to shave your head, get new out fits, take a course or make some modifications in your life? This is a perfect time to practice those things. Baby yourself a little while. You may not have shopped for a new clothing a month ago but do it now. You will look a lot happier. Don?t exaggerate it, though, or your financial matters might supercede your relationship woes! Getting over a sloppy separation is not simple, but with a few insights and ideas, on how to get over a break up it is possible.

On this article I explained step by step plan to follow that almost guarantees on how to get over your ex. You can get it here: Forget Break Up Quickly.! If you are serious and committed to change your life, this guide will outline for you step by step what you need to do to forget your ex and move on into your life.

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