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Build self Esteem:AStarters Guide To Self Improvement
So how do you stay calm, composed and maintain self esteem in a tough environment? Here are some tips you may to consider as a starter guide to self improvement.
Imagine yourself as a Dart Board. Everything and everyone else around you may become Dart Pins, at one point or another. These dart pins will destroy your self esteem and pull you down in ways you won’t even remember. Don’t let them destroy you, or get the best of you. So which dart pins should you avoid?
Dart Pin #1 : Negative Work Environment
Beware of “dog eat dog” theory where everyone else is fighting just to get ahead. This is where non-appreciative people usually thrive. No one will appreciate your contributions even if you miss lunch and dinner, and stay up late. Most of the time you get to work too much without getting help from people concerned. Stay out of this, it will ruin your self esteem. Competition is at stake anywhere. Be healthy enough to compete, but in a healthy competition that is.
Dart Pin #2: Other People’s Behavior
Bulldozers, brown nosers, gossipmongers, whiners, backstabbers, snipers, people walking wounded, controllers, naggers, complainers, exploders, patronizers, sluffers… all these kinds of people will pose bad vibes for your self esteem, as well as to your self improvement scheme.
Dart Pin #3: Changing Environment
You can’t be a green bug on a brown field. Changes challenge our paradigms. It tests our flexibility, adaptability and alters the way we think. Changes will make life difficult for awhile, it may cause stress but it will help us find ways to improve our selves. Change will be there forever, we must be susceptible to it.
Dart Pin #4: Past Experience
It’s okay to cry and say “ouch!” when we experience pain. But don’t let pain transform itself into fear. It might grab you by the tail and swing you around. Treat each failure and mistake as a lesson.
Dart Pin #5: Negative World View
Look at what you’re looking at. Don’t wrap yourself up with all the negativities of the world. In building self esteem, we must learn how to make the best out of worst situations.
Dart Pin #6: Determination Theory
The way you are and your behavioral traits is said to be a mixed end product of your inherited traits (genetics), your upbringing (psychic), and your environmental surroundings such as your spouse, the company, the economy or your circle of friends. You have your own identity. If your father is a failure, it doesn’t mean you have to be a failure too. Learn from other people’s experience, so you’ll never have to encounter the same mistakes.
Sometimes, you may want to wonder if some people are born leaders or positive thinkers. NO. Being positive, and staying positive is a choice. Building self esteem and drawing lines for self improvement is a choice, not a rule or a talent. God wouldn’t come down from heaven and tell you – “George, you may now have the permission to build self esteem and improve your self.”
In life, its hard to stay tough specially when things and people around you keep pulling you down. When we get to the battle field, we should choose the right luggage to bring and armors to use, and pick those that are bullet proof. Life’s options give us arrays of more options. Along the battle, we will get hit and bruised. And wearing a bullet proof armor ideally means ‘self change’. The kind of change which comes from within. Voluntarily. Armor or Self Change changes 3 things: our attitude, our behavior and our way of thinking.
Building self esteem will eventually lead to self improvement if we start to become responsible for who we are, what we have and what we do. Its like a flame that should gradually spread like a brush fire from inside and out. When we develop self esteem, we take control of our mission, values and discipline. Self esteem brings about self improvement, true assessment, and determination. So how do you start putting up the building blocks of self esteem? Be positive. Be contented and happy. Be appreciative. Never miss an opportunity to compliment. A positive way of living will help you build self esteem, your starter guide to self improvement.
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Tags: bad vibes, dart board, starter guide, dog eat dog, self improvement, improvement scheme, self esteemAvoid These Arrows and Build Your Self Esteem
Have you ever wondered how some people manage to remain calm and composed and keep self esteem in so many environments? You might like to try these tips to start you off in the right direction.
Try to imagine yourself as a target. A target that archers use to shoot their arrows at, maybe. All the people you meet in everyday situations will become one of those arrows. Those arrows will shoot you down one by one and slowly destroy your self esteem. So which arrow should you avoid to prevent them destroying you or getting the best of you?
Arrow number one: Work Environment Negativity
Wherever you work now or have worked in the past you will have come across the “dog eat dog” environment where everyone is fighting to stay one step of the rest. Non-appreciative people will always thrive in this environment. If you decided to miss your tea break or work through lunch or even decide to stay after hours no one is going to appreciate your efforts. How many times have you worked too hard without any help from the people you are putting all your effort in for? Your self esteem will be ruined if you stay in this negative work environment. Stay out of this. Competition is everywhere. Be healthy enough to compete, but in a healthy competitive way.
Arrow number two: Other People’s sad and bad behaviour
The walking wounded, people who spend their lives gossiping, brown nosers, whingers, back stabbing loners, and everyone else with bad vibes and attitudes will slowly eat away at your self esteem as well as your self esteem building program.
Arrow number three: Changing Environment
You cannot get away from change. Accept it and envelop it. Without change we cannot grow as human beings and remain stale and stagnant. Just like a pond that receives no fresh water or movement it too will become stagnant. Changes refresh and cleanse us. It tests our flexibility, adaptability and alters the way we think. Changes can and will make things difficult for a while will make life difficult for a while and can sometimes be very stressful but at the same time can improves our lives. In life there will always be changes so we should embrace it and be happy with it.
Arrow number four: Experiences in our past
Do not be ashamed if you make mistakes or fail at something you hoped to be good at. Just do not let failure transform into fear. It might feel like you have been swung around like a cat by the tail. Dust your self off and try again. Treat each failure and mistake as a lesson.
Arrow number five: Viewing the world in a negative way
When it comes to building self esteem you must learn to make the best out of bad situations .There are too many negativities in the world around us. Try not to view the world in a negative way it will only eat away at your self esteem.
Many people wonder if some people are born leaders or born positive thinkers. This assumption is incorrect as being positive, and staying positive is a choice we make for ourselves. When it comes to building self esteem and drawing lines for self improvement it is a choice, not a rule or a talent.
When we start to become responsible for whom we are self esteem building will eventually lead to self improvement. It is just like your oven at home when you light it, it starts off warm then gradually become the inferno you desire. Developing self esteem we start to take control of our life, mission and values. So how do we start putting up the building blocks of self esteem? Be positive, contented and happy. Be appreciative of everything around you. Never miss an opportunity to compliment. Living life in a positive way will help you build self esteem and then your confidence will grow.
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