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Authenticity – Living By Your Own Blueprint
Being true to yourself may sound like a piece of self-explanatory, stating-the-obvious kind of advice (the sort one takes for granted). But how real is this for you?
To be true to yourself means that first you need to have a clear idea of what it is that you want from your life: your dreams, your values, and your priorities. Philosophers grappled with the concept for centuries, long before the birth of modern psychology. In fact, it was Socrates who said, “The unexamined life is not worth living”.
Your choices, based on your individual priorities, depend on your values. Values guide you to make the right choices for yourself. Your own set of values – which, in the broad sense, means your preferences, the elements that you must honour and include in your choices at all times. Your set of values can be likened to a personal blueprint. Almost like fingerprints, this personal blueprint is distinctly different for every person.
This very difference can sometimes be the source of trouble: often, when you ask for advice (or get it, unsolicited) you get it from someone else’s perspective, based on their blueprint, not on yours. That means that you still need to sift through that advice – to check it against your own set of values, wants, and needs – and only then make the right choice. It makes decision-making hard work, particularly when big decisions are involved. But being lazy, opting for the easy way out by taking someone else’s advice (and that includes magazine guidance, so-called “expert advice”, and frequently your own family’s recommendations) has a very big price-tag. While you may get lucky and score a good one, you may equally find, too late, that the choice you have made was based on someone else’s set of values, needs and wants, and that it does not fit your own requirements.
What does it mean to live authentically? “Living authentically” is what you’re doing when you find congruence between your inner world – your feelings, values, gifts, needs, spirituality, and passions – and your outer world: your job, relationships, home and community”, writes Susan Piver, in her 2004 book “The Hard Questions for An Authentic Life”.
And hard it is. We are constantly pressurised to conform, adapt, compromise, and take on other people’s causes. Dr. Susan Campbell, psychotherapist and author of “Getting Real”, says it like it is: “We are all hypocrites” she claims, and explains: “We live in a world that challenges our sense of integrity at every turn. We say we value a clean environment, but we drive cars and ride aeroplanes…we say we value democracy, but we secretly want our own way. We say we honour honesty, but we frequently withhold our feelings to avoid conflict. We all preach one thing and practice another.” She goes on to share some of her years of experience in therapy and group work, of how often we all tend to use “should”. We should be better; we should be doing more, etc. But, she says, “should are pretences” they all relate to some imaginary yardstick that we measure ourselves against. And we will always be lacking. The only relevant yardstick, therefore, is one’s own. If you have identified, after some reflection, that being truthful and honest is critical for you, and that you cannot compromise on it, then behaving accordingly in a variety of situations will lead to you feeling good about yourself, fulfilled and satisfied. However, if you find out that what you truly cannot live without is being in a supportive, loving environment, of non-cynical people, honest and warm, and you currently work in a cut-throat industry and in a very competitive urban firm, then perhaps it is time to move on.
HOW DO I FIND OUT WHAT IS MY BLUEPRINT?
Finding out what you are about, is the best exercise you can do.
My preferred exercise is a combination of “The End in Mind” (habit 2) of Stephen Covey and Co-Active Coaching model exercises. Here it is:
Think about the end of your life, when you are very old, and about to depart from this world. Who do you imagine there around you, who have been (or would be at the stage) part of your life, that is now about to end? Who is present there (spouse? Children? Grandchildren? Friends? Neighbours? Famous people? Ordinary people? How many?); Where is it taking place? How does your house look like? Where is it? What do these people think about you, which reflects back on your life? What have you achieved in your life? In what fields or areas? Be as detailed in your reply as possible, and jot it all down. Make sure you do this when you have plenty of time – and privacy.
Add to this vision of the end of your life as you go along. Read it carefully. This is the first step in creating some form of map of your life. This is where it should all lead. One client of mine, for example, envisioned herself in a beach house, white washed and full of light, next to a very blue ocean. There were many people floating about, coming in with pots of food and home-baked cakes. There was soft music. There were dozens of young children, and they were all her grandchildren and great grandchildren. She had three daughters and their husbands there. They said about her that she was kind, giving, warm and always prepared to listen. She had been a devoted mother. She published a few novels, which were well received, although they never made her wealthy. Her husband was there, too, he was an architect, and he designed this home, their retirement home, to her specifications. She has had that dream house on her mind since she was in her late twenties. Her husband was kind, gentle, funny and attentive. In his old age, he looked short, podgy and bald, a little bit like her own father looked when he was in his sixties.
This client was a 29 year-old woman, who just graduated with an LLB, and was beginning her attorney’s articles. She travelled the world and loved South East Asia. She had just broken up with her latest “disastrous affair” (her words) with another man in a series of “typical bad choices” she had made over the last decade. He was handsome, tall, successful and very self-involved. She admired all the traits that made the relationship fail. She kept feeling she was never good enough for them, and somehow, all of her partners left her behind, taking her for granted. She never felt cared for. She was busy giving herself, emptying her emotional arsenal out. She came to me not believing she was capable of making a good choice when it came to men. Yet, she knew she wanted a career and a family.
Through this exercise and over many conversations, she learned that she was looking for the wrong traits in men. That she needed to give the less good looking and less superficially successful, another try. Two years later, she married a warm, loving, funny engineer. He looked, she told me, very much like her father, yet, it stopped bothering her after he proved to be looking at her admiringly, listening to her with full intent, and trying to make her laugh and enjoy life. She also quit the legal profession, and enrolled in a creative writing course, supporting herself by being an au pair. Her parents thought (loudly) that she was mad, “throwing it all away”. She was able to explain calmly what led her to make these choices. Eventually, they could see her viewpoint although the murmuring keeps going on. She smiles at it, forgivingly.
She has made that shift, from living according to someone else’s yardstick, or set of values, to finding her own. She lives authentically. In her words: “I am done doing what is expected of me without giving it another thought. When I am not sure about what to do, I go back to this end of life picture, I sit quietly for awhile, and I gain strength to face whatever or whomever it is and claim back what I know is my choice.”
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I work with clients who are willing to move forward in their professional and personal life, past unfulfilled dreams, limiting assumptions and regrets. Our common goal is to move away from “what if” to “let’s try”, bridging the gap by removing limiting beliefs, working through anxieties and setting new goals, in an accepting, non-judgmental, supportive and positive and safe environment.
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Driving Fear by Rich Presta Review – Never Be Scared of Driving Again!
Are you having panic attacks or suffering from dizziness while you are driving? I’ll be providing a short review of the Driving Fear program by Rich Presta which promises to get rid of the fear of driving.
I’ll share first my story. I’ve always had a fear of driving. I don’t know where it came from, but whenever I am behind the wheel, it’s almost a sure bet that I would be having panic attacks and severe nausea. It was so embarrassing that I always had to request a friend or co-worker to accompany me when I drive.
I tried a lot of ways to cure me of this problem to no avail. I bought a ton of books and even had therapy which cost a lot of money only to find myself back to square one. I searched the net something that could help me and I found a lot. But all of them cost thousands of dollars and I don’t want to waste my money on something that I know has a little chance of helping me.
Then I found Driving Fear which had a very attractive price tag so I decided to try it out. I did some of the exercises found on the book thinking that this wouldn’t work. The next time I drove, I was surprised to find myself a little relaxed. Of course I was still scared but that little improvement was something I was happy with. I decided to read the book and apply everything it says.
I am happy to announce that my fear of driving has now been completely eliminated. I am just now experiencing the wonderful feeling of driving a car and it is such a good experience.
All I can say is that this program deserves my very deep appreciation. Without it I still would be a mess every time I am driving.
Click here to go to the official Driving Fear Website.
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Chelsea is a receptionist living in Houston who writes during her spare time.
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The magic word that can change your life
The magic word that can change your life
Do you know that there is a magic word that can change your life for better? What is this magic word? And how can this magic word help you achieve success?
Yes my friend, there is a word that can turn negative things to good things. This magic word has such power that its use depends on you. It can help you improve your life and achieve everything your heart desire. This magic word can help you turn misery into happiness and failure to success.
The magic word that can change your thoughts and life for better is the word “BUT.” You might wonder how one word that contains three letters can do miracles for you.
Suppose you lost your job. Instead of getting upset and negative about it, you can say something like, “Yes, I lost my job, but I’m going to get a better one.” If you lost some money in the stock market, you can say, “It is true I lost some money, but I’m going to get more than what I lost.” If you are depressed, you can say, “Yes, I’m depressed, but I’m going to get better and become happy.” Do you see where I’m going with this?
This magic word can transform your thoughts and take you from being depressed and helpless to becoming an optimist and happy.
How to use this magic word?
1. Every time something negative or bad happens to you, accept it and start to focus on the solution. You have to know what the negative issue is, so you can change it to something more positive.
2. After you know mentally exactly what you want to change, remind yourself of the word “BUT” so it will take you from the negative situation to the positive.
3. Take action and start taking steps to help get you where you want to be. If you use the magic word “BUT,” without taking action, then you probably won’t get the desired results.
Whenever you encounter a problem in your life, remind yourself of the power that the word “BUT” has and how it can help you change your thoughts, so you can solve your problems and have a better life.
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http://www.2achieveyourgoals.com
Do you know that only 3% of the world’s population manage to plan and reach their goals? The main goal for 2achieveyourgoals.com is to help you become from the top 3% of the world’s population who know how to achieve any goal they desire in all areas of life. If you have a specific goal that you want to accomplish or want to improve an area of your life, but do not know how or why you are not getting any result, then this is the place for you.
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Encourage Yourself
Encourage Yourself
Most of us know what it feels like not to have your family, friends, or other important people on your side when it comes to something you want to achieve. Weight loss ranks way up there on the list. My hubby, sister, wife lover etc won’t encourage me what do I do now? Encourage yourself. That’s what I said You must encourage you. See I am seeing a sad trend. Sometimes we use the very same people as excuses not to achieve our own goal. I know I shouldn’t say it but sometimes it true. Let us analyze it.
Oh gosh I have too much fat on my belly (okay in my case it was all over, but you get the picture) I’m overweight I need to lose, a certain amount of poundage but my hubby, sister, family, etc.. won’t support me so why bother. Come on I mean as much as people may love us it is our body. I was not going to end up with diabetes because my husband loves me just the way I am. I am s not going to use the people I love the most as an excuse to remain at my worst.
So if you really want it and you have no one standing in our corner, you must learn to encourage yourself. See we have only one for certain thing in this life and that is this. We will always have our self. From birth to death we are stuck with ourselves. Sadly we might lose family members and our spouse and significant others might just drift in and out of our lives but we will always have our body. I don’t know about you but I don’t want to be stuck with a sick, saggy body if I can have a healthy one. So if no one else ever encourages me, it is okay, I made a promise to myself that, I will be right there on my side, yelling give it your best. I hope you will do the same. If you ever come to that place where there are no encouragers around….encourage yourself.
Don’t quit, don’t surrender, push through be determined to achieve your own personal victories.
Tammie-Maria Allen©2006-2010
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Tammie-Maria Allen is a passionate artist,writer,model and musician,She is also a multifaceted business woman and a certified personal trainer.
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Best Seats in the House: Ambiguity and Paradox MODE of Cosmic Therapy©
The Futile Stupid Unreasonableness of Trying to Hold onto a Familiar Identity and Comfortable Security
We work so hard to ‘establish and maintain’ a certain familiar distinctiveness in ourselves, according to how we inadvertently label success, financial freedom, recognizable sought after happiness/wealth/riches: ‘making it to the top.’
Which supposedly offers us a comfortable individual security, merited place of notoriety, including an emotionally attached favored ‘looked up-to’ identity of sorts?
We are trying so hard to get it right, make our mark, ‘be somebody’, do it before the next guy cashes in; we tend to overlook and undervalue how much precious time is sucked away in fueling our self-vested fabricated idolized misery.
Along with the desperately sought after unshakable security, [arriving at the place we believe to be significant and worthy of praise and recognition] a certain self-projected respect demanding ‘holier than thou’ foreboding energy attaches itself to the ‘one being in the know.’
The more we project we know, or have need to know anything, the less we are in the vicinity of finding out. In other words, we are always hopelessly lost; no matter the outer ‘toys of distraction’ we exploit to prove otherwise. (Ambiguity)
Moreover, during the falsely saturated time of cherished self-intoxicated elevated position, we silently refute and resent the parroted place of fictitious harmony while, lacking in true peace, are superficially traveling incognito, defiantly in search of finding our ‘true selves’ in an attempt to fill the gaping hole we live with. (Paradox)
“Surely true peace of mind can be had, IF only I knew how to do the right things to get it.”
“This cannot be all there is”, we silently reassure ourselves, as we once again succumb to our fractured mind’s taunting insistence; “Don’t Worry. Have hope. It’s going to get better. You won’t feel like this, always.”
The relentless torrid mind ridicules us at every turn, as we try to calm our restless seething nature.
Nothing could be worse than for us to heed the deceitful luring words of hopeful resolution. (Ambiguity) There’s no peaceful resolution to be had for there’s nothing to resolve. (Paradox) “This IS as good as it gets.”
An absolute insidious mockery of the worst kind results when we arrive at the place where we think we should be, doing what we ought to be doing, saying what we need to say, performing the comparable expected majestic duties attached to the “IDEA” of success whether in marriage, career, education, and/or on a spiritual platform.
If the truth be known, as unpleasant as it sounds to fragile ears: to supposedly arrive at the situation where ‘We’ve made it” nothing short of drinking an 8 ounce bottle of absinthe laced cyanide can eradicate the infectious feelings of unutterable disdain and disgust.
We are living in complete ubiquitous ambiguity and indemonstrable paradox. To deny the reality of its liberating premise produces unalterable agony.
To declare with full certainty that we KNOW what to do and HOW to do and with WHOM to do it is a complete boldfaced lie! It would be like saying one path is better than another path. No. Impossible.
All roads lead home if you don’t KNOW where HOME is located!
Adjusting to the undeniable fact that things are constantly (appearing so) thrown out of order simply to be rearranged in a different framework, requires an ineffable courage and merciless determination not to be swayed by visual “human appetite suppressants.”
Whether these suppressants be in the form of relationships, spirituality, career, fame, prestigious positions in society, celebrity/sports recognition, accolade mastery, extended idolatrous vain attritions of celebrate honor, or simply ‘following someone else’ who has thoroughly convincingly marketed himself/herself and the ‘miracle fix products, programs, or processes’ as ones who ‘have the goods’, the end result is the same: melancholy.
Nothing could be further from road of acquiesced contentment than to believe we must be saved, rescued, set free, and/or bailed out. Our real business remains obscured as long as we look for it and ‘who we are.’
We are to abandon the idea and any recognizable reference to hope. Hope implies doubt. If we hope for a better tomorrow we are admitting our today is less than perfect.
Our days are the immutable ledges upon which we stand to view the sun, rain, snow, winds and drought with uncompromising gratitude. IF we could change our ledges, (we can’t) we would alter our indistinguishably programmed DNA molecules which comprise our celestially organized structured beings.
The more we try to change any aspect of our delicately magically ordered selves, relationships, careers, education, physical bodies, and variegated lives the less productive and contributory we experience ‘pure raw authenticity’ in our existence.
In addition, by inaccurately assuming when we arrive or have arrived that we would not lash out at those who have loved, supported and connected with us on our renowned journey is pointless.
The more successful we think of ourselves, the more unsuccessful we tend to view others. By reason of comparison and measurement, we must have a podium of reference for our advantageous highly coveted awarded singled out accomplishments.
So what are we to do? Cease striving, measuring, tabulating, competing and planning! Relax by facing each moment honestly with no glamorized emotional reaction. “If at any moment we think we know what we are doing and why we are doing, cease immediately.”
Invite ambiguity and paradox into the grand ballroom. Put on our finest attire. Offer them the better of the best we have in our closets. Allow the reality of death’s encroaching reality as the parade of victory to be celebrated and enriched.
Pretend not that he will stay his hand until we have finished our business. We have no business except for living/laughing/loving each moment of our soapbox infused lives unconditionally and rapturously content just to be here.
Don’t hold back.
Do what we sacredly sensually sexually passionately creatively love to do all the time. Look for no beneficial result, applause or appreciation.
Now and forever with no hope of excuses, defense, explanations, or recognition, breathe in the moment of self-generated ecstasy and release every single mouse dropping bit of it with the exhale.
Start afresh uncertain not having or wanting a clue. Live without security and destination. It’s the only way we do.
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About the Author:
Proud Native Born, Bred, and Resident of North Carolina, married 40 spectacular years, 6 children, 11 grandchildren.
Passionate about love, living, laughter, liberty, learning, listening, loosening up, lounging, lunch, liveliness, literacy, lip stick, letting my hair down, leaping, leaning, libido, lifting, linking, looking, lodging, luxury, lemons and lyrics.
BS in Communication MA in Art Education currently pursuing a Ph.D in Educational Psychology. Executive MODE of Cosmic Therapy Therapist, Esoteric Sexual Psycho-analyst,artist, author,entertainer, motivational speaker,teacher, singer/songwriter, perfumer, dream interpreter,musician, composer, playwright, professional astrologer, tarot consultant, numerologist, poet and self-taught chef. (Avid student of life and lover of humanity.)
Author: Just Around The Corner
Creator/ Host MODE Of Cosmic Therapy Hour Television Series
Founder/C.E.O. MODE International School of Esoteric Arts and Sciences
Executive Director www.modeofcosmictherapy.com
Innovator/Author Mode of Cosmic Therapy E-mail-O-Gram
Entertainer/Professional Motivational Speaker www.PaulaAndreaPyle.com
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Human Beings Are Emotional Drama Addicts Needing to Fix What is Not Broken
MODE of Cosmic Therapy Esoteric Psychology: Recovery is the Discovery to Leave it Alone
If we can appreciate that everything in the universe is composed of and moved by energy, we would also have to concur that this magnanimous mysterious energy vibrates.
Vibration is constant motion of perceived matter.
IF this vibration determines how the state of the so-called matter’s density and frequency is measured and monitored, we must also conclude that like sound, the occurrence of its regularity in various designated patterns (as with elements) institute reliability in the state of transferred chaos. It is through the exchange of energy (attraction, cohesion and repulsion) that life is established and maintained. In other words balance is arbitrarily formed by the opposite action undertaken.
Now, after having said all of that in the entire elementary short diffused chemistry/physics lesson, what is my point?
My point is that in the midst of our seemingly chaotic lives, we are living very much in balance. We spend most of our precious life time seeking to find something we already are in possession of.
We are vibrating to and in and through the essential experiences including all of the circumstances, people, places, things and so-called problems necessary for us to exist. We are not ‘out of line’ out of order or out of chances. We won’t be still enough to completely feel the fragility of our inherent unconquerable strength.
We are always on the look-out for something (a life, relationship, career, friend/family involvements) that are better, newer, shinier, emotionally less complicated, faster to bring desired results, easier, more beneficial, productive, financially rewarding, gratifying and certainly less stressful.
When all of the time we, (as bi-products of the universe) are attracting, bonding, and repulsing exactly what we need. We are so apt to make ourselves busy, busy, and busy to the point of exhaustion simply to avoid the real essence of our core filled lives.
Stillness. It’s found in the vibrating stillness!
We are not meant to flee the premises or seek saviors to come in and rescue us from our aggravating self- deluded tormented domain. There’s nothing to escape from or to or with. Have you ever noticed how fast and loud you speak when you become restless or bored?
Now, why on earth would you imagine that is so? Or how the sound of your own voice seems to reverberate inside your skull when the episodes of worry, doubt, jealousy, competition, fear, or strain enter? Those times are when you have vacated the premises: like Elvis you have left the building. You temporarily vacate the helm of the ship, leaving the bow of the ocean liner (your temple) empty and unattended.
When you vacate the premises, you make it so the highly disruptive emotional troops of unnerving discontent take over.
After which you are tossed to and fro like a capsized vessel on a furiously angry sea. In that moment of anguish, suffering increases, pain exaggerates and confusion escalates to the point of irreparable harmful damage. You know perfectly well what I’m talking about.
But, how do we stop this unintentional chain reaction of involuntary knee-jerk motions of the foul mouth, bad temper, bruised ego and spiky attitudes? Pause. Refrain from any movement in the direction of our normally conducted reactions.
We are all tired of chattering like incessant magpies with absolutely nothing of value to contribute.
But we continue running on like a wild uncontrolled noisy chainsaw left abandoned on the ground whose throttle has been jammed! It will eventually shut off once the fuel is gone. WE too are using our sacred fuel in meaningless confrontations, belligerent accusations, competitive demonstrations, and deceitful manipulations.
No need for such derailed drama; it’s never a pretty sight.
The thing is we say we want something we don’t need or desire. We want reassurance. We want someone to come along and tell us everything is going to alright, work out, get better, set us free us from our harrowing plight. Bull shit!
We are vibrating completely in unison with our delegated situation or we wouldn’t be in it.
Of course; we are not allowed to know for what reasons we are engaged in the various encounters, relationships, involvements, circumstances and/or events but you can bet your last dollar with the worst bookie and you’ll still win that the reasons you ascribe are NOT the ones holding you in place.
Two admonitions: Stop running; stop hiding. We are all recovering addicts; self-induced drama addicts. We love it. We create it. We thrive on it. It makes us feel so special.
We want so desperately to believe the world will not keep on spinning as harmonically beautifully without us but it does keep right on VIBRATING effortlessly. We are not IMPORTANT except to ourselves and that vain importance is short lived.
Just try to fix something that’s not cosmically broken, (people, relationships, circumstances, and finances) and the universe will strip the significance of our self-intoxication quickly.
Recovery is the discovery that there is nothing to be fixed.
[Nothing to get together, break up, nothing to smooth out, stir up, nothing to resolve or remove] Everything is exactly and precisely as it is supposed to be for reasons we can’t see!
No one is to blame for our heartache. The scenario vibrates perfectly in tune with the esoteric song written for you by you. Surely, you remember the distinctive words and melody of refrain.
No other monetarily created self-inflicted condition would support the dramatic illusion you have so cleverly established for yourself. Are you convinced yet? Do you still believe somebody has set you up for your pathetic demise?
Are you so doggedly determined to show that you are being unappreciated and undervalued, overlooked and taken for granted? Why are you so ‘special’ to be singled out?
Hold on a spurious minute while I cry you a bucket of insidious tears.
Whatever it is you believe of yourself as worthy to be praised or dubiously insulted at this moment must be shattered to smithereens. How are you doing with your ingeniously camouflaged ego-based hope-filled ‘self-seeking satisfaction’ inventive relationship projects?
Keep trying; take it down a notch or two…
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About the Author:
Proud Native Born, Bred, and Resident of North Carolina, married 40 spectacular years, 6 children, 11 grandchildren.
Passionate about love, living, laughter, liberty, learning, listening, loosening up, lounging, lunch, liveliness, literacy, lip stick, letting my hair down, leaping, leaning, libido, lifting, linking, looking, lodging, luxury, lemons and lyrics.
BS in Communication MA in Art Education currently pursuing a Ph.D in Educational Psychology. Executive MODE of Cosmic Therapy Therapist, Esoteric Sexual Psycho-analyst,artist, author,entertainer, motivational speaker,teacher, singer/songwriter, perfumer, dream interpreter,musician, composer, playwright, professional astrologer, tarot consultant, numerologist, poet and self-taught chef. (Avid student of life and lover of humanity.)
Author: Just Around The Corner
Creator/ Host MODE Of Cosmic Therapy Hour Television Series
Founder/C.E.O. MODE International School of Esoteric Arts and Sciences
Executive Director www.modeofcosmictherapy.com
Innovator/Author Mode of Cosmic Therapy E-mail-O-Gram
Entertainer/Professional Motivational Speaker www.PaulaAndreaPyle.com
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Role of Meditation in Life
With the hectic pace and necessitate of modern life, many people feel stressed and over-worked. It is of feels, that there is just not enough time in the day to get everything done. Our stress and tiredness affect our health; make us unhappy, frustrated, and impatient. We are often so busy, we feel there is no time to stop, and relax. So the best solution of this problem is to meditate. The desired goal of each meditation technique is to approach our awareness into a more positive direction by totally transmuting one’s state of mind. To meditate is to deflect inwards, to concentrate on the inner self. Meditation can help us to understand our own mind. Actually it gives you more time by making your mind calmer and more focused. Meditation is the secret of every successful person because they know that the meditation is the gateway, through which you arrive to the world of freedom.
The whole process of meditation usually have the three stages – enlightenment (dhyana) , concentration (Dhahran) and absorption (Samadhi).Meditation helps you to transform our mind from negative to positive, from disturbed to peaceful, from unhappy to happy. By just seated in meditation you can enjoy throughout the day. Yours only ten or fifteen minute breathing meditation can help you to overcome your stress and find some inner peace and balance. With meditation we learn stress management. Overcoming negative minds and cultivating constructive thoughts is the purpose of the transforming meditations found in the Buddhist tradition. But if you make meditation a daily practice, then definitely it will soon turn into a habit.
Meditation is most often attempted in silence, but it’s quite difficult to accomplish and therefore some people use music as an aid to concentration and they called it relaxation music. In order for music to be helpful in this way it should be very ambient in nature with no discernable rhythm to follow. It is best utilized by attempting to visualize the music as you sit with your eyes closed. Try to imagine shapes of energy forming and moving from the music. With this meditation music we should listen with our heart rather than mind because our mind tends to criticize and complicate things but our heart embraces the consciousness of the music, as because Music is the inner or the secret universal language of the Universe”.
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By our website you can learn the basics of meditation. We explain you how to overcome with negative minds, also explain you stress management. Meditation is the secret of every successful people. Meditation music world provides you audio CD with that you will try to imagine shapes of energy forming and moving with the music.
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How to Get Over a Bad Day?
Everybody knows what is a bad day. But our actions at those days may differ. Some of us like to complain, some of us know what to do in the bad situations. So this second part of people has their own methods how to get over those bad days.
The first thing we should remember is that somebody else has a worse day or he feels much worse than you do. It is a first step to change your mind, to change your attitude to the world. Think about it! Everything starts with the thought!!!
And as you know the thinking is very important so you should start to think positive right now. Try to spend some time every day just for thinking. Like that you will learn how to control your thoughts. And when you will be able to do that you will be your own boss. That means you will be in charge of your life. Isn’t it great? And it sounds very easy too, right?
Till now you should fell better. And it not matters if you have that bad day or not or if you are just curious about what I have to say.
Well, thinking is the main weapon how to not have bad days at all. But if you aren’t lucky this time you can use the music therapy too. Choose something that you like to hear and listen to it until you feel better. You can sing along or you can dance. Do everything that makes you happy. Some of us may have problems with privacy. I mean to find a place where you can be alone. But of course it is not the must. If you don’t feel disturbed you can sing and dance even in the public places.
And my last suggestion – make a list with the things you like to do. Maybe you like to eat cakes or you just need to sleep more sometimes. It depends on every people and we all know that possibilities are too many than we can write on paper.
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Embrace the Season with Nature Journaling
Refresh your Journaling Practice
Few sights are more inspiring than rows of trees bursting into flame with the red and gold leaves of fall. Unless it’s the fist pink blossoms of spring. No matter what the season, it’s likely you’ll encounter a few days that provide an ideal opportunity to take advantage of the natural beauty around you to explore your journaling self with refreshed spirit.
Pick a day when the weather seems to be begging you to go for a long walk. In the autumn, you want a day that’s cool and breezy yet with plentiful sunshine. In winter, you might need your heavy coat, and don’t forget warm socks! Bring your journal, a pen, and a blanket, and set out on a nature journaling adventure.
Prepare to Journal: Move, Listen, Write
1. Follow your instincts and walk to a quiet, peaceful place where you can write without too many distractions. You can stay as close as the neighborhood park around the corner or go as far as a day hike on mountain trails. Go wherever you are likely to feel positive and inspired.
2. As you walk, resist the temptation to listen to music and instead allow your mind to become more still and serene with every step. Become aware of your breathing and the sights, sounds, and smells around you. Pay attention to the people you meet, animals, plants, and whatever else is nearby.
3. Find a good spot to sit, spread out your blanket (or find a park bench or bring a folding chair), and make yourself comfortable. Take a few easy breaths, open your journal, and write about your thoughts and observations.
Writing Therapy Cures! Let Inspiration Flow
If you’re too cold, or too hot, or otherwise uncomfortable, move elsewhere until you find the place where you can relax and let nature’s muse play with your imagination. Then let it fly!
Here are some prompt ideas to get you started:
• Write about what you see in front of you right now. Record the flora, the fauna, the weather. Enjoy describing them in detail.
• Collect a few brightly colored leaves and describe them vividly. Bring the leaves home with you to press or glue into your journal later. Or, in winter, choose a stone or tree and illustrate it in words.
• Write a short story about animals that live in your area. What are their habits? What are their days like, and their nights?
• Describe your feelings about the season. What are your most favorite and least favorite parts? Let in some memories that the season tends to bring back to you every year.
• Consider what smells you associate with the season and what memories and emotions they bring up. Do you smell wood smoke and immediately think of reading by the fireplace as a child? Or do you remember the smell of hot dogs and popcorn from football games? Or maybe the fragrance of pines on frosty mornings takes you back to school days.
The more you practice your journal writing, the more you recognize where inspiration comes from, and the greater respect you gain for wonders of every kind. And natural wonders are, of course, at the top of the list.
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About the Author:
By Mari L. McCarthy – Journal / Writing Therapist. Does the holiday season stress you out? Journal your way to a stress-free holiday, with Mari’s help. Mari’s trademarked program, Journaling for the Health of It! ™, helps her clients live healthier and happier lives. Please visit the Journaling for the Health of It blog.
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The disbelievers said unto Muhammad: Is not your Lord ashamed…?
Who is Allah? (3)
Many People do not know their Almighty Creator, Allah.
In this series of articles, the reader will find out the real ID of Allah as presented in His Holy word, the Quran, chapter (Surah) by chapter.
In the Quran, Allah mentioned some small creatures as the fly, the ants, the spider, the gnat etc. The disbelievers among the ignorant Arabs and the Jews went to the Prophet Muhammad and said unto him: Is not your Lord ashamed to mention such small, unimportant and trivial creatures and to make a similitude of them?
Then the verses 2:26-29 revealed unto the Prophet Muhammad and say:
The Verses 2:26
Allah is not ashamed to make a similitude even of a gnat, or anything larger or smaller than it, so that the similitude is not affected by the size of the creature that Allah has created.
As for the believers, they know that the similitude is the truth, established and given in this instance, from their Lord; but as for disbelievers, they say, ‘What did Allah desire by this similitude?
The disbelievers among the ignorant Arabs and the Jews, at the time of the Prophet Muhammad, did not realize that the creation of such small creatures is very complicated and very amazing. Also, they did not realize that the gnat may cause human disasters.
Allah then responds to them saying: Thereby, that is, by this similitude, Allah leads many astray, from the truth on account of their disbelieving in it, and thereby He guides many believers on account of their belief in it; and thereby He leads none astray except the wicked, those who reject obedience to Him.
The Verses 2:27
Then Allah described those disbelievers among the ignorant Arabs and the Jews and He describes their personality; He says that:
1) They break the covenant of Allah, the contract He made with them in the revealed Books to belief in Muhammad, after its solemn binding, after it has been confirmed with them, and such as cut what Allah has commanded should be joined, of belief in the Prophet, of kinship and other matters as He has commanded.
2) They do corruption in the land and make mischief in the earth, by way of their transgressing and impeding faith.
They, the ones thus described, shall be the losers, they lose if not in this world then and for sure in the Hereafter since they shall end up in the Eternal Fire.
The Verses 2:28
Allah then proceeded to mention His blessings on them; He concluded the summary of every man’s life cycle and Allah states, as proof of the Resurrection, when they denied it:
How do you, Arabs and Jews, disbelieve in Allah,
1) When you were nothing, you were just dead dust,
2) Then you were semen inside loins, and Allah gave you life, in the womb by breathing Spirit into you;
3) Then Allah shall make you dead, after your terms of life are completed,
4) Then Allah shall give you life, at the Resurrection,
5) Then to Him you shall be returned! after resurrection, whereupon He shall requite you according to your deeds.
The Verses 2:29
It is Allah Who created for you all that is in the earth, that is, the earth and all that is in it, so that you may benefit from and learn lessons from it.
It is Allah Who created seven heavens
It is Allah Who has knowledge of all things, in their totality and in their individual and tiny details
So do you not then think that the One who has the power to create this to begin with, which is much greater than what you are, also has the power to bring you back after death?
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The Verses 2:26-29 (Yusuf Ali Translation)
The Verses 2:26
Allah disdains not to use the similitude of things, lowest as well as highest. those who believe know that it is truth from their lord; but those who reject faith say: “what means Allah by this similitude?” by it he causes many to stray, and many he leads into the right path; but he causes not to stray, except those who forsake (the path),-
The Verses 2:27
Those who break Allah’s covenant after it is ratified, and who sunder what Allah has ordered to be joined, and do mischief on earth: these cause loss (only) to themselves.
The Verses 2:28
How can ye reject the faith in Allah? – seeing that ye were without life, and he gave you life; then will he cause you to die, and will again bring you to life; and again to him will ye return.
The Verses 2:29
It is he who hath created for you all things that are on earth; moreover his design comprehended the heavens, for he gave order and perfection to the seven firmaments; and of all things he hath perfect knowledge.
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About the Author:
Safaa Abdel-Aziz
Co-Chief Editor, October Weekly magazine, Cairo, Egypt.
Member of the Egyptian Society of Save Children.
Member of the Egyptian Society of Tourism
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